We as an individual, nobody are dumb enough to understand what life has to offer to us. It’s just the difference in the perspective we see it. In the philosophers’ word, someone see the glass half empty whereas someone the glass half full. Yeah yeah, I know it could have been summarized it in just two words, optimistic and
pessimistic. I wish the life could be so much black and white.
The concept of being black and white applies for the relationships also. We always see any relationship as existing or it was never there kinda thing. But we always ignore the grey area. And take my words there is nothing wrong in it. Ultimately
it’s the being human attitude aspect of us which never allows us to look in for could be existing bridge over a chasm, which can also be called as a grey area. But if you introspect or ever you can retrospect, the biggest grey area plateau is always between love and friendship.
I don’t know, maybe I am wrong, but if someone ever ask me that what kinda person you can fall in love with, I know the first factor would always be friendship. You can’t ever love a person without being friends. Because to love someone the first
step is always that you should know the person in and out, you should be able to stand by the person through thick and thin of life. And I don’t think no one other than a friend does that. Sorry for being rude, but I am not considering those who have a firm believe in the concept of arranged marriage. But that’s completely my point of view.
Okay, coming back to the grey area. I never realized when it became a passion for me; I started observing people very closely. And I know it’s very fruitful for me, as every new person observed gives a completely new perspective of life. But what
hurts me most is all of us always give a blind’s sight to the grey area, the unidentified portion of the relation that exists between the two clearly identifiable aspects of relationship. Yeah I am talking about being in love with your friend. And girls please don’t mind, and it’s a personal observation, being a guy it is very easy for me to fall for a lady friend of mine. But for any girl it is one of the toughest tasks to digest the fact that one of her friend loves him. Is it really that tough?
I know all those dialogues and you don’t have to repeat it, “I know you are my best friend but I never thought that there could be something called as love between us”. Come on dear, how can you fall for a stranger. You don’t have any
freaking clue about him. I know physical appearance matters a lot, even for me. But seriously that’s not the end of story. Your life always goes beyond the appearance. It is about how you care for each other. It is how you can nurture the relationship. It is about understanding the fact that you don’t have to say it explicitly. Yes, it is about love. It is like planting a tree. All seeds are almost of same shape and size, but one of them ends up in quite a magnificent tree if properly cared. Same is the case with human relationships also. We start friendship with a bunch of people at the same note. And you can always find a person among them with whom you want to spend your life with. Just because the fact whatever you are expecting from your Prince Charming, he is almost there. It’s just a matter of fact can you identify him.
You know life is not that much easy as we always dream of. And that is completely gender agnostic in true sense. We may have rules of “Ladies First”, but when it comes to life there is just one rule; be smart and handle and grab everything in time. Once anything is lost, is lost, there is no point in repenting for it. So are we really ready for it?
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